Do Holiday-Fights Have You Considering Divorce?

While the holidays are intended to represent togetherness and good feelings, they can create a lot of stress for many families. This stress can result in more fights and make people question whether their marriage is working.

The Huffington Post reports that January is said to be known as “Divorce Month” in legal circles, given the number of people who reconsider their relationships around this time of year.

The Huffington Post also states that statistics support the moniker. The social expectations of a happy family, the increase in time spent together by couples with already strained relationships, the challenges of trying to schedule dinners with family and friends, and the impetus presented by the new year to take stock of things all contribute.

Here are some questions to consider if holiday fights are making you contemplate a divorce:

1. How do you feel about the holidays in general?

Your own attitude toward this time of year (or your partner’s) could be impacting an otherwise healthy relationship. A little understanding and support on both sides of the relationship could do a lot to make the holidays easier and put your fears at rest.

2. Are the issues being brought up holiday-centric, or do they reflect larger problems?

If your fights are happening because you’re both tired from running around buying presents, for example, you may find that you can chalk up your marital discord to seasonal challenges rather than irreconcilable differences.

Taking some time when you are both calmer to discuss the specific causes of holiday issues could lead to productive discussions about how to make your relationship stronger. If your holiday spats are related to constant sources of emotional distress in your relationship, you may have a more serious conversation to have, depending on whether you think the overarching causes of your fights can be resolved.

3. Are these feelings new, or are you just finally admitting these issues to yourself?

Facing the possible disintegration of a marriage can be difficult, and sometimes a crisis is necessary to make us confront our issues. If you find yourself connecting your current negative state with previous situations that you had brushed off at the time, investigating your approach to the underlying source of the problems may be long overdue.

Next Steps

If you find that your reasons for considering divorce hold up past the holiday season, it may be time to file for divorce. We can help minimize the stress of this process for your family.

Colgan & Associates, LLC is a trusted law firm that focuses on family law matters, traffic matters and criminal defense. We represent clients in both State and Federal Court, with offices in Harrisburg, York and Dillsburg.

Click here to contact us, or fill out the form on the right to arrange a free consultation. You can also call us at (888) 587-9419.

some time when you are both calmer to discuss the specific causes of holiday issues could lead to productive discussions about how to make your relationship stronger. If your holiday spats are related to constant sources of emotional distress in your relationship, you may have a more serious conversation to have, depending on whether you think the overarching causes of your fights can be resolved.

3. Are these feelings new, or are you just finally admitting these issues to yourself?

Facing the possible disintegration of a marriage can be difficult, and sometimes a crisis is necessary to make us confront our issues. If you find yourself connecting your current negative state with previous situations that you had brushed off at the time, investigating your approach to the underlying source of the problems may be long overdue.

Next Steps

If you find that your reasons for considering divorce hold up past the holiday season, it may be time to file for divorce. We can help minimize the stress of this process for your family.

Colgan & Associates, LLC is a trusted law firm that specializes in family law matters, traffic matters and criminal defense. We represent clients in both State and Federal Court, with offices in Harrisburg, York and Dillsburg.

Click here to contact us, or fill out the form on the right to arrange a free consultation.