Divorce with Dignity

Divorce is always difficult, but it doesn’t have to result in lifelong acrimony. I saw a headline recently which proves this point.

Tim Rogers was running for mayor of New Paltz, N.Y. Many divorced candidates would be hesitant to have their exes say anything about them, but Rogers welcomed his ex-wife’s comments. In fact, the former Mrs. Rogers, Alex Toledo Webb, even went so far as to publicly endorse her ex-husband, saying that as his ex, “it should be clear, that (Tim) and I have not agreed on everything over the years. But I do know that in all the time I have known Tim, I have consistently seen him to be straight-forward, honest and committed to what he believes in.”

Clearly, Tim Rogers and Alex Webb found a way to end their marriage with dignity and a sense of mutual respect.

I wouldn’t be surprised if Rogers and Webb chose a Collaborative divorce. This method of ending marriages works when the divorcing couple is open to negotiating a mutually acceptable resolution without having the court decide their fate. They agree to maintain open communication and share pertinent information so that they create shared solutions that address the priorities they establish at the outset.

As I have noted in previous blogs, don’t let someone tell you that all divorces are collaborative. True Collaborative divorces (notice the upper case “C”) are facilitated by specially trained attorneys and financial and mental health experts who understand how the Collaborative process works. These professionals are skilled in helping the couple work through their issues so they don’t have to turn to the courts.

If you’d like to learn more about what I believe is a better way to divorce, contact us. We have several attorneys who are fully trained in the Collaborative process and have seen it produce outcomes that produce the respect and dignity the Rogers’ exhibit.